Am I a bad mom because....?

Am I a bad mom because I make my son sit on the potty when he needs to pee? I mean he has the rest of his life to stand and pee, so will it really hurt him if he just sits for a year or two? I have tried to let him stand and pee, and it always turns out disastrously. And he pees often. No matter how many times we tell him to aim at the water, he likes to see what else he can hit. He's peed on the seat, the lid, the floor, the wall and last night, he even hit the shower curtain. Then if he does get it in the water like he's supposed to, when he's done, he still dribbles on the seat. I love him, and I know he's only two, so I can't get angry. It's just frustrating having to clean up so much pee.

Going back to my original question...no. I don't think I'm a bad mom because I want my son to sit on the potty until he can control his pee stream. Some people may think it's selfish or slack. Whatever they think...I don't care. Over the past two years I have been amazed at how competitive moms are. We want our children to hit all the milestones early so we can proudly announce to family and friends how advanced our little ones are. I am guilty too.

When we took Grayson to the doctor today, the doctor commented on how alert he was for a four-day-old infant. As soon as he said it, I was like "yes." My baby is going to be a super awesome genius baby. As soon as the thought crossed my mind, I wanted to slap myself. My son isn't even a week old yet, and I am already wanting him to be a genius. Seriously, what is my problem? I don't want to be one of those moms. I don't have time to be one of those moms.

Yes, I want my kids to be successful - smart, athletic, outgoing, loving, compassionate, etc - however, I am not willing to pit myself against other moms in some ridiculous competition. I want to be a good mom, and for now in order for me to be a good mom, I need to be sane. If that means making my son sit on the potty, then what's the big deal? Grandparents may not like it, other moms may make comments about it behind my back...so be it. The less time I have to spend cleaning up pee, the more time I have to play with my kids and pour my love and energy into them.